Getting Married Someday?
ACTIVELY PREPARE TO BE A GREAT MARRIAGE PARTNER:

Your training to become a great person and great spouse starts now – don’t leave this to chance.

There are things you can do to divorce-proof yourself and your future relationship. Gaining the tools for a Successful Marriage starts Now:

DON’T STRIVE TO FIND THE PERFECT MATE; IT’S ALL ABOUT ACTIVELY STRIVING TO BECOME THE PERFECT MATE. Get to know God – He invented you, invented marriage and its guidelines, and created the world. He is the foundation of it all, so skipping this step in order to be all tough, prideful, and “D.I.Y.” is stupid. Common, but stupid. He created you for a purpose, and ”You” – your stuff, your pleasure, your winning, is not that purpose. Click here for a list of helpful materials >>
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Not only did He invent you and invent marriage, He also gave us a lifeline – a clue – His instruction manual – the Bible! Shed all the “Well, I was brought up this way, I’m an adult now, and I ain’t changing. Learning and changing ended after high school” crap. It’s not helping. All your problems, and all the world’s problems, are solved in that owner’s manual; why aren’t you reading it? PRIDE (and its minion, unmet expectations), SELFISHNESS and UNFORGIVENESS are poisons. You gotta let ’em go, friend. STOP FOLLOWING SOCIETY’S MODEL.

DO THESE THINGS:

Be forgiving
All honesty; no lies.
Be grateful for what you have
Be selfless; exist for others, not yourself.
Learn great money management skills
Protect the reputation of your family name

IT MAY FEEL GREAT TO DO THESE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE -THEY’RE CERTAINLY POPULAR THESE DAYS -BUT THEY RUIN YOU:

Stubbornness, self-pride
Selfishness
Revenge, criticism, bitterness
Self-pity, self-isolation when there’s a problem
Gossip, slander, sarcasm, “pushing someone’s buttons” to see how they’ll react
Being a hypocrite
Withholding things (truth, affection, money, forgiveness, apologies) from your mate until they give in
Fits of rage and anger; threats
Blackmail and manipulation

Society and media show and tell us: do these things! Do you? If so, YOU NEED TO CHANGE THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR.

POORLY PREPARED PARTNERS END UP IN POORLY CONSTRUCTED MARRIAGES, AND DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO FIX IT.

START TRAINING NOW TO BECOME A GREAT MARRIAGE PARTNER.

Resources:

The Bible (Pick an easier to read version, such as New Living Translation, New American Standard Bible, English Standard Version, or New King James Version. Where to start? See a good, Bible-preaching pastor – or talk to us.)
“True Spirituality” by Chip Ingram
“How to Find Your Lifelong Companion” by Charles Swindoll
“The Resolution for Men” by Kendrick and Kendrick
“Five Moral Fences” by James MacDonald
“Saving Your Marriage before It Starts” by Les and Leslie Parrott
“True Woman 101: Divine Design” by Kassian and Demoss
“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
“Five Lies that Ruin Relationships” by Chip Ingram
“Overcoming Emotions that Destroy” by Chip Ingram
“Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships” by Chip Ingram
“Swipe Right (The Life and Death Power of Sex and Romance)” by Pastor Levi Lusko
”Your Money Counts” by Howard Dayton
“His Perfect Faithfulness” by Eric and Leslie Ludy
“Forgiving Others – Joining Wisdom and Love” by Timothy S. Lane
Movie: “Flywheel”
Movie: “Courageous”
Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse, by Mary DeMuth
When The Man You Love Was Abused, by Cecil Murphy
Love Letters from the Edge: Meditations for Those Struggling with Brokenness, Trauma, and the Pain of Life, by Shelly Beach and Wanda Sanchez
Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships, by Frank Minirth and Paul Meier
Every Man’s Battle, Revised and Updated 20th Anniversary Edition: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker
Every Man’s Battle (Workshop)
Women in the Battle workshop (Women in the Battle is designed to help women who have been hurt in relationships with men who are or have been involved in pornography, sexual addiction or adultery.)
How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage, by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
The God Who Sees You: Look to Him When You Feel Discouraged, Forgotten, or Invisible, by Tammy Maltby
Never Ever Be the Same: A New You Starts Today, by Larry and Kathy Miller